Sunday, April 30, 2023

2023.04.30 Know Any Sheep? Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post

When we traveled in the northern isles into Scotland and Wales, we saw sheep—lots of sheep. They stood around grazing and munching on the green hillside. We used to joke that the sheep were grazing and munching on the green hillsides at night when it got dark and we turned in for the night. In the morning when the sun loomed skyward enough that we could see in the morning light, the first sight we saw were those same sheep still grazing on those same green slopes chewing their cud in the side-to-side way such ruminating ungulates do. 


I always looked for shepherds and I never saw any on those hillsides. It led me to believe that sheep really didn’t need shepherds as much as we think, and possibly in the ways we assumed. In fact the locals would spat about the cantankerous, bellicose personalities of the Irish sheep, as opposed to the placid peaceful Scottish sheep. All of this was good humor, possibly to cover up for underlying hostilities between neighbors—the politics. 

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And then in Christian churches I heard a lot about Jesus as a—no THE—Good Shepherd, guiding, prodding, cajoling and scolding all the dumb sheep to make sure they followed him, and him alone. At this idea I bleated and balked, and refused to follow. 


Then I heard a sermon about the parable of the sheep and the goats presenting an image of Jesus, acting on God’s behalf, sitting on a throne separating sheep from goats. He cast aside the goats, designating them to perish in Hell, and adopted the sheep, designating them for salvation as God’s chosen ones. The Gospel was read. The people in the congregation settled into their pews—some ready to listen, other ready to critique, others settling in for a doze, imagining that no one could notice their drifting off. (A preacher in a pulpit or preaching from the crossing, can see all the dozers, believe me—just as we could see all the nonchalant sheep grazing inattentively day and night.)


This particular sermon began: “Some people think this Good Shepherd image for God is bogus.” 


Everyone quickly woke up from dozing or grazing and paid attention. This preacher went on to debunk the “bogus” image of God as Judge. This preacher I fell in love with. I knew he knew how to love everyone equally—goats and sheep—impartially, inclusively, gracefully. This God I loved as well, good goat that I was.   


Apparently, so did some members of a search committee, getting a preview of a priest who might be a candidate for their own parish. They were buried, anonymously, in that morning’s congregation. They too wanted a God who embraced both sheep and goats without prejudice. They elected him as their next rector. In time, I followed.  

Sunday, April 23, 2023

On The Road—Again, Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post, 4/23/23



The biblical story, as reported in Luke’s gospel (24:13-35) about what happened on the road away from Jerusalem and towards Emmaus is a classic story: something so radically outside the realm of our expectations happens that we can’t believe it. We can’t believe our eyes, our ears. These followers of Jesus knew that he had died—dead and gone. 


I remember such a feeling when I saw the bare body of my dead father, his frail bony legs hanging limply over the arms of the big burly funeral director who carried him from his home. I knew he was very sick with esophageal cancer. The surgery to remove the tumor had left him unable to swallow. I knew he was going to die. He was only seventy-one. I knew I’d received a call from my mother early that Sunday morning that “Daddy died.”  I, with my sister and mother, had kept vigil, taking turns for days as my father moved through his dying process. It took nearly a week. I timed his groans— every fifteen minutes as he tossed and turned on the pillow. The nurse said he wasn’t in pain. Was he wrestling with “demons” or himself or God?  I thought I would die from helplessness just listening and counting. I knew my father was dying, yet when I saw him dead I did not believe it. I could not believe it. My love was not ready for this death.


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A neutral Jewish historian at the end of the first century reported: “When Pilate, upon hearing him (Jesus) accused by men of the highest standing amongst us, had condemn him to be crucified, those who had in the first place come to love him did not give up their affection for him. And the tribe of the Christians, so called after him, has still to this day not disappeared. (from “Overture” The Gospel of Jesus, by scholar John Dominic Crossan.)


Does this mean that these early Christians were stunned by their disbelief as if it were a delusion, or did it mean that some kinds of love never dies? I don’t know. But I do know that Emmaus-like experiences happen all the time. The couple in this Emmaus story left the crucifixion scene and walked along the road, incredulous. Of course they talked, trying to understand the incredible death. The gossip and the wondering ran wild. Who do we believe? How will we know? A stranger came along and asked them what they were talking about. They told him of Jesus’s death, and their incredulity. 


Later that evening they invited this stranger to join them for more conversation and a meal. In the meal, the breaking of the bread, they recognized the meal we now call the Communion/Eucharist, the meal Jesus had told them to keep on doing for remembrance and for ongoing sanctification of Truth. Suddenly, they remembered all they had experienced in their travels with Jesus. Yes, he was dead and yes, he still was alive with them in this meal. Only then did they race back to Jerusalem in high spirits, proclaiming the aliveness of Jesus the Christ/Messiah.  


Crossan wrote: “The symbolism is obvious, as is the metaphoric condensation of the first years of Christian thought and practice in one parabolic afternoon. Emmaus never happened. Emmaus always happens.”  


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Some time after Dad died I rummaged through his drawers to find some kind of memory. I found his old faded golf sweater. I put it on. Its sleeves hung down well below my hands. I smelled the scent of his cigarettes, poked my fingers into the little holes made in the sweater by cigarette ash. I wore that old sweater on and off for some years, until one day, I knew I would never forget my father and his dumb toxic habits, nor his love for me and mine for him. That day I rolled up the sweater and placed it gently into the trash basket with a gentle pat. My father was dead. My father remains alive in my heart. 


Will I see him again? I don’t know, nor do I much care. Remembering is enough. Loving and writing the memories is enough. Continuing to celebrate the sacramental meal Jesus instituted in God’s name is enough to keep the Love he preached alive—to trust and reenact its potency always.  AMEN. 

Sunday, April 16, 2023

2023.04.16 As My Doubt Goes, So Goes My Theological Passion, Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post

There are very few things or people I care about that I do not first doubt. My rule of life has been: Always doubt first, then always ask questions to check your doubt.

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Since early childhood, as so many of you know already, I have loved and talked to God and felt loved and heard in return. No one taught me this. My younger sister is  witness to my early habit. The above is not a religious statement. There is nothing doctrinaire about it; nor is it particularly spiritual, full of holiness and zealotry for Christ, my Church, or my vocation. Rather, it is about self-doubt/God-doubt and testing out my personal confidence in God’s existence. My practice grew into my love of the Bible and its stories, and my keen appreciation for the disciple of Jesus, who has lovingly and distastefully, been nicknamed “Doubting Thomas.” Like me, he only sought to make sure, to eliminate his doubt. 


Now that I have written a mouthful of personal truth, I can easily move inward to engage my love of Thomas, the supposedly failed and shamed disciple. Jesus never shamed him! His story is written in the Gospel according to John, therefore it is dated later than the others by at least 30 years. This does not make it wiser, but it makes it more influenced by early Greek philosophy, and perhaps more bold in its assertions of Jesus as the one and only Christ/ Messiah for all. I love and worship Jesus the Christ, yes, and I doubt that such commitment is necessary to everyone’s well-being or salvation.

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Scene: as remembered by the Johannine school of writers in John 20:19ff. 

Jesus has died a tragic unjust death by crucifixion. His disciples, except Thomas who was not with them at this gathering, are stunned, grieving, still wondering at the report of Jesus’s appearance to Mary Magdalene, and uncertain what they should do next. They gather, fearing persecution as followers of Jesus, when Jesus appears to them, invites them to touch his wounds as evidence, and offers them peace. He then tells them to receive the Holy Spirit, speaks briefly about the spiritual value of forgiveness as well as the dangerous power of unforgiven “retained” sins. (Today, we might call this process letting go with love.)


Commentary: Now this is brilliant therapy, not to mention a recipe for success in the living out of Jesus’s Gospel/ the “golden rule”—then and now—for which they now will be the witnesses, the advocates, the teachers, the models. It is an enormous and difficult challenge to communicate, not the appearance of a miracle but the commission to spread Peace and Forgiveness. This is the challenge for all of us now in this world, regardless of race, religion, sex, politics, or cultural bias. 


Scene: Disciples gather again, a week later (John 20:26). This time Thomas is with them as they continue to puzzle over the mysterious appearance of Jesus and their monumental task of living out his message. Thomas doubts the veracity of their experience and wants physical proof. Jesus shows up again and offers to Thomas his hands and side, so Thomas can touch his wounds. Proof. Thomas declares Jesus his Lord and Savior. Jesus honors Thomas’ doubt habit and  reminds him not to get “peacockish” about his need for proof, but to consider himself blessed. Jesus adds that there are many who will not have this same opportunity who will also be blessed with great faith.  


Commentary: There is no need to take these stories literally in order to take them seriously. Do not wait for miracles. Do not insist or badger others to be Christian. Divine Love is broad and deep and wide. I doubt it’s tied to any one religion. I have spent many years reading, praying, researching, questioning, and assuring myself that this “doubt” is valid. The message has no restrictions or confinements at all. God, no doubt, is cosmically present to all creation.  


Simply use all your strength, energy, and faith to act with love and compassion, spreading peace and forgivingness to humans and nature along this way of Life. 

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Postscript: The Doubter of scriptural note has a gospel of his own, The Gospel of Thomas. It was discovered in 1945 by an Egyptian farmer in Nag Hammadi. In addition, some much earlier (about 200 BCE)  fragments of papyrus with a style and language demonstrated by scholars to fit with the later manuscript, have also been discovered.  The Gospel of Thomas has no narrative but is made up only of sayings of Jesus ie. “Jesus said . . .”  Some of them that Jesus scholars considered authentic include the Parable of the Sower, Mustard Seed, Lilies of Field, and pay your taxes=Caesar’s due. Attitudes toward women and their role are distinctly and rigidly patriarchal, one even suggesting women change their sex, which does not mean have a sex-change operation. This latter patriarchal text is very doubt-free to yours truly, because it is still true.  

Sunday, April 9, 2023

2023.04.09 What's New? Old? Here? Gone? Near? Far? Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post


Today is Easter Sunday. Everything’s new!  Last evening we celebrated the Holy Eucharist around the dining table with two lovely friends. We had no organ, only our reedy aging voices. Is this a newly minted “church” perhaps?  A sacrament without a proper sanctuary? 


Easter felt intimate. God’s presence felt near, in our words, smiles, shared prayers, the flesh of our hands held. And yet, we worshiped a risen God. Far? Close? Near? Far?


I needed a new word for my two-faced spiritual experience. A new word popped into my head as I wondered. Did we experience divine transcendence immanently—or maybe divine immanence transcendently? Or both? 


TransImmanent. 


TRANS? In contemporary lingo, “trans” is short for transexual or transgender, someone whose sexual identity does not correspond with their birth sex. Deep inner truth prevailed. Is that just for individual human beings?  Trans is from a Latin root, meaning across. I envision God crossing, even dancing, back and forth, over and around two traditional theological definitions for the image of God: Divinity is transcendent—above and beyond physical human experience. Divinity is Immanent—remaining within, inherent.  


TransImmanent? 


The God I first met under the large table when I was a toddler chatting away about whatever popped into my small inquisitive mind, was a loving/listening presence, yes, on a cloud with a long white beard. That cloudy image faded, but the experience of God being intimate never did. Over many years I’ve studied and prayed and done all sorts of academic, sacramental, and spiritual calisthenics, trying to contain, or explain, or even shake off this inner God, thinking it was my own illusion. 


I can hear the echo of my wonderful late Spiritual Director the Rev. Pierre Wolff’s voice   in my ear: Doucement cherie. Yes, but . . .


Through all my wordiness and wonderment over years, I’m struck with a sudden heart-thumping elation—a new idea I can’t suppress, a new emotion, even though it is attached to, yes, a word and my childhood experience! Without warning, a very old traditional childhood hymn popped into my mind:  


For the beauty of the earth, 

for the glory of the skies, 

for the love which from our birth, 

over and around us lies. 

Lord of all to Thee we raise 

This our hymn of grateful praise. 


TransImmanence.  Over and around us. . .  


HAPPY EASTER. 

  

Sunday, April 2, 2023

Palms To Ashes/Ashes To Palms, Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemon, blog post, 4/2/2023

 


Who condemns whom for what? Why can we not settle something—once and for all? Laws may help or hinder, but they do not settle every conscience, every heart.  

 

On Palm Sunday, we Christians wave palms, shout Alleluia/Hosanna, and march about triumphantly singing hymns of joy and triumph. This Jesus is Messiah, and he will triumph. Yes, and…….. some of those palms, symbols of enormous hope, are soon burned to ashes, symbol for repentance of sin. 

Amendment #14 of the Constitution could be a palm or ashes.


The 14th Amendment, created to protect formerly enslaved people, was passed in 1868 and guarantees that “all persons born or naturalized in the United States … are citizens of the United States … and no State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States.”


In 1973, writing for the majority opinion in Roe v. Wade, Justice Harry Blackmun said that a woman’s right to an abortion was implicit in the right to privacy protected—under the 14th amendment. Palms.


In the decision to overturn Roe v. Wade in 2022, Justice Samuel Alito wrote: “Guided by the history and tradition that map the essential components of the Nation’s concept of ordered liberty, the Court finds the 14th Amendment clearly does not protect the right to an abortion.”  Ashes.


Different decades, different interpretations. 


If, however, the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment) were included in the Constitution, there would be no doubt that discrimination on the basis of sex was illegal. 

The 14th Amendment was NEVER intended to protect women. So how can it be invoked in discussions about the ERA to justify a private decision, such as abortion, made by a woman, just because she is a woman, not because she has greater moral accountability than a father?  Will he be arrested too? Who makes the decision here—she, he, them, the unborn, or the government? 


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When life is at stake, I usually want the law to protect that life whenever possible. That includes animals. An unborn fetal life, even one as yet unformed, should be protected. However, in the case of abortion there are at least three lives involved—that of the mother, that of the father, and that of the unborn child—not to mention the whole dang family. There is no question in my mind that this is a very difficult—sacrificial—decision that cannot be made without great pain; nor is it a decision that can be made with perfect equity. That is why it must be personal—not mandated by law or church or state. This decision must remain free and left up to the only one whose whole life, not just her body, is most directly and immediately affected by the consequences. 


CASE: I once drove a young 16-year-old girl to the hospital where she would get an abortion. She had already formed dreams of being an attorney. Still, the most obvious, immediate, and dominant fact—one she knew for certain in this moment—was that she was neither willing nor equipped to birth and take care of a child. So her decision, though painful, was entirely her own discernment. It was not a matter of law. She does not regret her decision but continues to grieve the death of her unborn child, a son she intuited, named, and remembers often, many years later. The human heart remembers—always.  Palms and Ashes. 


What the mind must legislate, the heart must mourn.  


In Greek tragedies there is alway a tragic flaw, usually in the main character. The flaw here is in the system not its players. The flaw is allowed by God, the Creator of all life, who relinquished control in favor of a greater gift, that of freedom. All freely chosen decisions are therefore spiritual, that is, made with consideration given to every aspect of this life decision—not just the rule of law or commandment but the total wellbeing of all parties involved in the outcome.  


If this seems impossibly difficult, it is. There is no divine gift more difficult to live out than freedom, also no gift as highly valued. This is why divine mercy is built into creation alongside freedom from the beginning. What is the first thing the humans do in the mythic story of Eden? Right. They do the one thing they are told will bear them ill consequences. They choose freedom. We often do this too—take a chance and bear the consequences. The balance of freedom and love, the interlocking of good and evil, make an abortion decision unbearably, unmanageably, tragic. (The root of the word tragic is from tragos or goat.) 


Such a decision is spiritual—not driven by law, rule, or even sacred oath but arising from the depth dimension—that place some call Soul, and I call the depth dimension. God, I am sure by prayer, is present within this process at every step, allowing our freedom to be free even through agony or error, and even if a decision proves fatal to self or other. 


CASE: I was working as a pastoral psychotherapist. A colleague where I worked came to see me to talk about an abortion she had many years ago. I listened and she told me she had pretty much forgiven herself, but she was fretting because she had never named this child she’d intuited as a son. This bothered her to tears. I had no idea exactly what would console her. Then I remembered I was a priest, so I asked her if she would like her son to be baptized and named. She brightened. We got a bowl of warmed water from the kitchen. I consecrated (blessed) the water. She held an invisible infant while I poured water, mingled with her warm tears (some of mine too) over her opened hands and we said the words of Holy Baptism, using the name she chose.    Ashes to Palms. 

Sunday, March 26, 2023

Life In Death In Life—Stories, Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post, 3/26/23


There’s a story in John’s gospel (8:3) about life-choices.The locals complained to Jesus about a woman who was caught in adultery. For this she should be condemned and stoned to death. [NOTE: The Inclusive Bible translation is: “A couple had been caught in the act of adultery, but the accusers only brought the woman.” This contemporary translation completely, and rightly, changes the slant of this story. ]  


Still, according to traditional translations used in most worship settings, we hear about the offender being female. Biblical stories are hefty, whether people take them literally or as symbolic stories. Think of favorite children’s story books. I bet they still tell you something about your personality, your soul, life’s big issues, about sins and graces. 


Sexuality is one such issue in the news daily, although sex is usually private. How did this adulterous woman get caught? You might think that the cunning politicians of Jesus’s day brought this case before him to trap him: Did he know the sin/sex-rules or not? Jesus, no fool, stooped to scribble something in the sand, such as “So where’s the guy?”  We don’t know so we wait. Jesus bought himself time to think before he offered the divine teaching/verdict, which is what these accusers wanted. He then stood to address the crowd: “Let the person among you who is without sin throw the first stone.”  Stoning, then and now in some places, was the prescribed punishment for such a sin.    


Silence fell. 

No stones were hurled.  


“Has no one condemned you?” Jesus asked the woman, who said, “No one, Teacher.” 


 “Neither do I condemn you,” Jesus said, sending her off with a warning not to sin further—not the couple, just the woman, mind you. 


This story speaks volumes about the breadth and depth of divine grace, no matter what our sins. It also speaks volumes about human vulnerability, spiritual naivetĂ©, and ignorance about God’s love under all circumstances. 


Is it a Resurrection story?   


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Jesus went on his way to preach and to heal. Before long he encountered the sisters of his best friend, Lazarus. They were angry because Jesus wasn’t there when Lazarus fell ill and died. To them, Jesus could have prevented the death. A moving scene then played out in which Jesus openly wept over his friend’s death.  


Much has been made of this open expression of emotion. It tells me that we human beings have strong and, even holy, feelings, even when we simultaneously have faith that God’s grace is also always present. Jesus’ tears remind me that Jesus was fully human. Did he weep over Lazarus’s death or because he wasn’t there when the sisters needed him? I don’t know. The story tells us that Jesus went to the tomb of Lazarus and called the dead Lazarus to come forth from the tomb. Lazarus is raised from the dead.


I am far less impressed by this miracle than I am by the tears of Jesus.  


The Lazarus story, however, is a crucial building block in the Christian story. It’s a springboard for theological statements about Resurrection—not as doctrine but as experience as viable as Jesus’ tears. Resurrection stories abound, and all of them create emotional intelligence that is missing in doctrinal interpretations. 


Today, I saw the first Robin redbreast strutting about on the dry un-flowered earth. Resurrection.

Today, I got a message that an old friend had suddenly died. I felt tears well up, then remembered this friend’s robust humor—her regaling clergy at a somber clergy conference with a joke about a poor guy with a highly communicable disease who had to be isolated/quarantined and fed a strict diet of flounder only. Q: Why flounder? A: It’s the only thing flat enough to fit under the door of your room. In itself, this  joke is only mildly worthy of a grin, but when this friend told it, her laughter was robust and contagious. It filled the air with sudden joy as we all fell into peels of laughter. Resurrection.  

Today, I heard from a friend in a nursing home who is a steadfast atheist. She called to tell me that she was no longer an atheist. “I’ve moved to agnostic!” We laughed together. Resurrection. 

If our Constitution were amended to include the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)?  Resurrection. 


So let’s get out there, each with our own abilities, gifts, and personalities, and let’s resurrect, revivify whoever, wherever, however. 


RESURRECTION IS  NOW. 

Sunday, March 19, 2023

2023.03.19 Blindness Of One and Of Many, Lyn G. Brakeman, Spiritual Lemons, blog post

 

I never forget journalist Betty Friedan, the woman who in 1963, the year my oldest daughter was born, published her first book The Feminine Mystique. It begins:  "The problem lay buried, unspoken, for many years in the minds of American women. It was a strange stirring, a sense of dissatisfaction, a yearning that women suffered in the middle of the 20th century in the United States. Each suburban wife struggled with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night — she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question — 'Is this all?'" 


That question sparked a second wave of feminism in the United States, after the first one led by Suffragettes in the early 20th century under the banner “Votes for Women” brought the painful truth of political lop-sidedness into American life.  Is that all?  Of course not. Friedan’s book would permanently transform the American social fabric and inaugurate a pioneering moment in American history as one of the most influential nonfiction books of the 20th century. For me, I wanted my own self-honesty and freedom, and I wanted to stay close to my children and theirs—at once.  

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I’m in the 21st century now, and with conversations much has healed in my family, and I still have blind spots. I wonder why God is still clad in masculine gender. Is this all? 


What about larger questions? What about all our warrior language about peace? Do we make war for peace? Do we “battle” cancer? Do we call domestic violence, abuse? Do we “hate” or “demonize” or “fear” people in a political party not our own? Is this all?


Just today an anonymous person delivered a package we had ordered to our door. It meant we didn’t have to travel down to the first floor to get it. It was toothpaste! We laughed. Such a small gesture felt so silly and small and wonderful. This is all. 


May we be courageous enough to be open-minded not single-minded. More dependent than independent?


Jesus and a Samaritan woman, as well as Jesus and a man born blind, had conversations that changed both of them, both perspectives, and left both to ponder. Me too.  Is this all?  YES.